Have you ever been at a social event, where some drunken lout crashed the party?
Someone like that is tedious to be around, because while THEY think they are witty and charming, they mostly slur their words and repeat the same few stupid things over and over. They don't get any smarter, or more entertaining; they only become more stupid and unpleasant over time. Their attempts at humor are usually crude and simplistic, lacking any cleverness or amusement value. They are socially clumsy, and they talk over the top of attempts at conversation by anyone else in an effort to dominate conversations and to try to be the center of attention.
The harder they try to be a part of the event, the more they put themselves at arms length from the rest of the party, the more they alienate people. This is not someone with whom you can have a conversation; there is no possible exchange of thoughts or ideas. If they can't be the center of attention, they don't want anyone else to engage each other either. It is a form of what a friend of mine once called conversational bullying, the "enough about you, now more about me" disruption.
If you're lucky, you don't end up with the drunk plopping a turd in the punch bowl, peeing in the bushes, or mooning people, all the while thinking themselves quite the cleverest, wittiest, best-est guest ever, and that the party is terribly fortunate to have them crash it.
They won't leave quietly; eventually they have to be escorted off the premises by law enforcement, maybe taken off to the drunk tank to sober up. If the cops are lucky, the drunken crasher doesn't pee or puke in the back of their cop car.
That is what it is like, subjectively, to have someone harass a blog. They are intrusive, and tedious, and repetitive, and don't contribute anything of substance or value. They are crude and simplistic, but they think themselves terribly clever repeating the same stupidities over and over, of the 'your mother wears army boots' variety of sophomoric banality. Failure to get the desired attention leads to internet temper tantrums in the form or ramling incoherent rants.
They apparently don't want anyone else to participate in an exchange of ideas, so they insert themselves wherever that occurs. Like a drunk, they have no significant ideas or observations to offer. They are often crude, and oddly and inappropriately hostile at random moments.
Our harasser comments under the pseudonym K-Rod. He likes to pull baseless accusations as insults out of his rear end instead of using his brain for more thoughtful, factual discussion; our hope there was some potential for intelligent exchanges from him disappeared long ago, (unlike other, more welcome dissenting commenters who provide better) . We're stuck at the blog comment equivalent of taking-a-dump-on-the- neighbor's-front-lawn/puking-on-the-sidewalk stage of bad behavior.
In the past few months we've served K-Rod with a Cease and Desist letter, first attempting to do so by registered mail, then by hiring a process server. Any hope we had at that point that we could deal with a reasonable person ended. Vague chest pounding threats were made, of the stumbling, babbling, spit-flying variety that results in feelings of disgust and revulsion by those privy to it, and maybe a little pity for how the harasser has embarrassed himself, rather than the intended intimidation.
While the observations of the process server, (who as an officer of the court in this instance was singularly unimpressed by the vague and ambiguous threats), mostly engendered a mix of pity and compassion from us, it is time to move to the next stage of our escalating legal options. People who behave like this don't seem to be fully in control of their behavior or emotions, which is why I used the drunk comparison. They don't appear to be able to act appropriately on their own, for whatever reason drives them. So other people have to intervene, because they don't seem to know when to go away or how to stop themselves, using the social skills one expects adults to possess. Some people just have a knack for making themselves unwelcome, wherever they go, and that seems to be true too often of KRod.
Someone like that is tedious to be around, because while THEY think they are witty and charming, they mostly slur their words and repeat the same few stupid things over and over. They don't get any smarter, or more entertaining; they only become more stupid and unpleasant over time. Their attempts at humor are usually crude and simplistic, lacking any cleverness or amusement value. They are socially clumsy, and they talk over the top of attempts at conversation by anyone else in an effort to dominate conversations and to try to be the center of attention.
The harder they try to be a part of the event, the more they put themselves at arms length from the rest of the party, the more they alienate people. This is not someone with whom you can have a conversation; there is no possible exchange of thoughts or ideas. If they can't be the center of attention, they don't want anyone else to engage each other either. It is a form of what a friend of mine once called conversational bullying, the "enough about you, now more about me" disruption.
If you're lucky, you don't end up with the drunk plopping a turd in the punch bowl, peeing in the bushes, or mooning people, all the while thinking themselves quite the cleverest, wittiest, best-est guest ever, and that the party is terribly fortunate to have them crash it.
They won't leave quietly; eventually they have to be escorted off the premises by law enforcement, maybe taken off to the drunk tank to sober up. If the cops are lucky, the drunken crasher doesn't pee or puke in the back of their cop car.
That is what it is like, subjectively, to have someone harass a blog. They are intrusive, and tedious, and repetitive, and don't contribute anything of substance or value. They are crude and simplistic, but they think themselves terribly clever repeating the same stupidities over and over, of the 'your mother wears army boots' variety of sophomoric banality. Failure to get the desired attention leads to internet temper tantrums in the form or ramling incoherent rants.
They apparently don't want anyone else to participate in an exchange of ideas, so they insert themselves wherever that occurs. Like a drunk, they have no significant ideas or observations to offer. They are often crude, and oddly and inappropriately hostile at random moments.
Our harasser comments under the pseudonym K-Rod. He likes to pull baseless accusations as insults out of his rear end instead of using his brain for more thoughtful, factual discussion; our hope there was some potential for intelligent exchanges from him disappeared long ago, (unlike other, more welcome dissenting commenters who provide better) . We're stuck at the blog comment equivalent of taking-a-dump-on-the- neighbor's-front-lawn/puking-on-the-sidewalk stage of bad behavior.In the past few months we've served K-Rod with a Cease and Desist letter, first attempting to do so by registered mail, then by hiring a process server. Any hope we had at that point that we could deal with a reasonable person ended. Vague chest pounding threats were made, of the stumbling, babbling, spit-flying variety that results in feelings of disgust and revulsion by those privy to it, and maybe a little pity for how the harasser has embarrassed himself, rather than the intended intimidation.
While the observations of the process server, (who as an officer of the court in this instance was singularly unimpressed by the vague and ambiguous threats), mostly engendered a mix of pity and compassion from us, it is time to move to the next stage of our escalating legal options. People who behave like this don't seem to be fully in control of their behavior or emotions, which is why I used the drunk comparison. They don't appear to be able to act appropriately on their own, for whatever reason drives them. So other people have to intervene, because they don't seem to know when to go away or how to stop themselves, using the social skills one expects adults to possess. Some people just have a knack for making themselves unwelcome, wherever they go, and that seems to be true too often of KRod.
JESUS! Is this still going on? Sorry to hear DG.
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